Tips on Tuesday – How to Find the Perfect Foundation

Selecting Foundation has to be one of the most confusing things my clients come to me about.  So, I’m going to try and make this as simple as possible.

First let’s start by pointing out your complexion and your skin tone are not the same thing.

Your complexion is the shade of your skin – light, medium, dark.  Mine is light in the winter and medium in the summer.  Your complexion changes with sun exposure, diet, medication etc.

Your skin tone or undertone is the amount of Melanin or pigment in your skin, which doesn’t change with exposure to the sun.

There are two types of Melanin – Eumelanin which is black and brown pigments and pheomelanin which is Red or Yellow.    Each of us has a specific level of each, with the level of pheomelanin being the driving force behind the type of foundation we choose.

So how do you find out if you have Red (cool), Yellow (warm) or a neutral undertone in your skin?

There are a couple quick tricks you can use to find out.

Do you look better wearing Gold or Silver Jewelry?  If gold looks better on your skin, you’re most likely a warm skin tone, if silver looks better on your skin, you’re a cool skin tone – if you great in both, you most likely a neutral skin tone.

In natural day light, look at the inside of your wrist.  Do you see blue/purple veins?  Then you’re a cool skin tone.  Do you see green veins?  You’re warm skin tone.  Maybe you can really distinguish either, than you’re a neutral skin tone.

Now you know you skin tone – let’s find a color!

Most manufactures have a labeling system.

Make Up For Ever uses Y for yellow or Warm and R for red or Cool.  The Artist at Make Up For Ever will also help you select the perfect shade.  The artist at Sephora, Ulta, MAC or any other cosmetic counter will happily do the same, but remember these are businesses and they are there to sell cosmetics.

If you’re not ready for the cosmetic counter yet and will be making your selection at the drug store, which carries some wonderful cosmetics, personally I like Revlon and Neutrogena.   Hold the foundation up to your wrist; does it look like a match? Try a couple different shades and you’ll find the right match.

So you found two, one lighter and one just a little darker, because summer is coming.   I say go for the lighter shade – it’s easy to take a bronzing powder and darken a light foundation, but there is nothing that can be done for foundation that’s too dark.

How do you select your foundation?

Do you have a question, ask away.

Finding the Beauty

I walk past this Big Metal Chicken (Rooster) almost everyday while out walking my dog.

The owners paints and dress this chicken for most seasons.

Presently, as you can see my favorite Chicken is ready to celebrate Valentine’s Day!  I suppose they could have styled him for the Super Bowl, as it’s being played right around the corner from us, but I’m kind of glad they didn’t – Valentine’s is a much more positive and universal celebration.

For Christmas, they styled him as Rudolph the Red Nosed Big Metal Chicken.  Personally, I loved the antlers and the nose that glowed at night.


While it’s great seeing the Big Metal Chicken change and celebrate the seasons.  I think the think I enjoy most is seeing the creativity and beautiful created and shared with us all to see – well at least those of us who go by.  I plan on posting any new styles the Big Metal Chicken takes on in the months ahead.

It’s the small things that makes the world a beautiful place, like a Big Metal Chicken!

Health is my Mantra

yoga940A couple of weeks ago I talked about mantras and my personal mantra – “Health, Wealth and Happiness”

I’d like to take a few minutes and talk about why I chose those three words.

For me all three words mean multiple things, so let me start with Health.

The World Health Organization defines health in its broadest sense as “a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.”

So yes, health means thinking about my physical, emotional and social well-being.  I also think of health in connection with my personal relationships with my husband, family and friends.  Are we in a good place?   Feeling positive, negative, motivated or marginalized?   When these relationships are healthy and working on all cylinders, it’s next to impossible not to feel and see the glow with in.  However, when they are not healthy or working correctly, we must have strength and insight to understand how to manifest change for the better with those individuals.  This doesn’t mean finding perfection, this means finding a healthy place to coexist.

I also consider the health of my business and community, both the one I live in and the ones I’m a part of on a larger scale.  What can I do to make my business better?  This is not just about the bottom line, but how do I make my business healthier without affecting my personal health and well-being, my family, staff and clients.

How can I make my community a healthier place to live?   A healthier community makes for a safer, friendlier and more enjoyable place to live.  Who doesn’t want that right?

How can I improve and empower a more positive and healthy discussion within my personal communities?  I’ve been a part of the Transgender Community for well over 30 years from my surgery and I have seen, heard and read many different discussions; Everything from not being Trans enough to too assimilating too far.  There are discussions about the privilege of passing and the voices of oppressed minorities groups within the community looking to be seen and heard.  Many of these discussions are important and need to be had, but how do we keep them discussions with positive outcomes and not personal attacks to take someone down to build ourselves up.

We are a strong and powerful group of self-identified individuals. We need to have healthy discussions amongst ourselves and work to lift everyone up.  We are healthiest, when we as a community working together to involve, inform and inspire ourselves and those around us.

Now you know what Health in my mantra means to me.  What does Health mean in your life?


A Mantra for 2016 or Life


Ah, the Mantra, let’s start with a definition first.

Wikipedia gives the definition of a Mantra  as a sacred utterance, numinous sound, or a syllable, word, phonemes, or group of words believed by some to have psychological and spiritual power in Sanskrit.

A mantra may or may not have syntactic structure or literal meaning; the spiritual value of a mantra comes when it is audible, visible, or present in thought.

Mantra are most often associated with meditation and yoga, but many business professionals are also using the idea of a mantra.   They are developing a a single phrase that defines themselves or their business.  much like a mission statement, but less future focused and more core focused who they are and what they feel.

So here is my personal Mantra.  I’ve had this Mantra for a couple of years and it took some time to get to it.  I wanted something simple, complete, yet expansive enough to carry with me for years to come.

“Health, Wealth, Happiness.”

Sounds pretty simple and basic right?  In these three words I found great power, balance and future.

I will being going in to more detail about each word in a future post, but for now I will take this out of my personal private practice and put it out to the Universe.

What’s your Mantra?  What’s at your core?

Making Room

As we head into 2016 many of us have made a resolutions to do something – go to the gym, stop smoking, loose weight and so on.

Well, I’m not going to be make a resolutions this year.  I’m going to be making room.  I going to be making room in my home, work and life for the things I want.  The challenge is how to make room when I already have so much “stuff” physical and emotional in my home, work and life.

The easy answer is to throw it all out, right?  Not exactly.  I’m not about to getting rid of the things I love, but there are plenty of things physical and emotional I can do without.

So then the questions becomes, once I make room what am I going to fill the space with.  Well, I’m not sure I want to fill all the space I hope to create, however some it will naturally be filled with the little things life brings our way each and every day.

As I go through this process, which I plan on taking slowly over the next few months, I’m hoping to make more room for family, friends, new memories and more smiles.  What will you be making room for in 2016?

Saying Good-Bye to 2015

As 2015 comes to an end it’s a good time reflect on the past 12 months and look forward to the next.

Like most years 2015 had both ups and downs.

The ups were my parents coming out for a visit, a great family vacation, my niece graduating high school and heading off to college. Of course there were new friends, clients I met and new place I went which is always exciting and blessed.

The  biggest moment of 2015 had to be moving the boutique and social club to our new location.  So many people helped, I was just overcome with everyone’s willingness to help support me – thank you!

The downs were feeling the full loss of a year without my grandfather, several friend who we lost along the way, especially Charlotte Beebe, who we lost in a horrible accident.  We all miss you greatly  dear Charlotte.  We of course lost client who moved away or choose to trying a different path.

Over all 2015 was not a great year, but it wasn’t bad either.  2015 was just a year, with a few things we’ll want to remember and a few we’ll happily forget.

2016 however is looking very exciting, there is a great new energy in our space, new clients, soon to be friends are coming in, several friends are preparing for exciting personal journeys and I even have a couple things planned for myself.

What was your 2015 like? what were your up or downs?  What are you looking forward to in 2016?